Butch Femme Planet - View Single Post

Miss Scarlett · 11-10-2010, 05:47 AM

Trying to write this without whining...

I love my job and my boss but...she seldom actually talks to me except for the following:

"Going to lunch."

"Going to court."

"Going to DSS."

"See you tomorrow."

"Do you have the ___ file?"

"Has ____ called?"

Every morning I greet her with a "Good morning" and a smile. She seldom responds. Every evening I wish her a wonderful evening. She seldom responds. When I ask if she had a nice weekend, she says "Yes." Nothing more. When she doesn't feel well, I ask after her and if there is anything I can do. Her response is brief like "OK" and "NO."

Some days she does not speak to me at all. I get no feedback except negative. When she does actually speak to me for more than a couple of words it's usually when something has gone wrong - an error on my part whether a genuine error by me, something that I have not done because I was not aware she wanted it done that way or something that was in no way my fault but I am hearing about it anyway as if it were. She speaks to me mostly through Post-Its and emails.

Now she is capable of speaking to people and very pleasantly, and has done so to me in the past. But more often that not she will do that either on the phone or in person and as soon as that conversation is over she returns to the not speaking to me. It's wierd. I've talked about this with my counselor who recognized that she "holds her cards very close" and I try to remember this. But it is still difficult and at times upsetting for me.

I know I am not there to be her friend or buddy but that does not make it any easier. She's one of those people that takes a very long time to get to know and I understand that too. Still some pleasant words or merely acknowledgement of my existence would be nice.

She is the complete opposite of my previous employer who would never stop talking to me. But I have had an experience before where the attorney and the other assistant would go for days without talking to me but conversed heavily between each other. I've got some PTSD from those previous jobs and part of my current reaction is related to that. But still...

OK, I'll shut up now.

11-10-2010, 05:47 AM	#4575
Miss Scarlett Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: . Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: . Posts: 5,530 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,478 Thanked 12,947 Times in 3,419 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Trying to write this without whining... I love my job and my boss but...she seldom actually talks to me except for the following: "Going to lunch." "Going to court." "Going to DSS." "See you tomorrow." "Do you have the ___ file?" "Has ____ called?" Every morning I greet her with a "Good morning" and a smile. She seldom responds. Every evening I wish her a wonderful evening. She seldom responds. When I ask if she had a nice weekend, she says "Yes." Nothing more. When she doesn't feel well, I ask after her and if there is anything I can do. Her response is brief like "OK" and "NO." Some days she does not speak to me at all. I get no feedback except negative. When she does actually speak to me for more than a couple of words it's usually when something has gone wrong - an error on my part whether a genuine error by me, something that I have not done because I was not aware she wanted it done that way or something that was in no way my fault but I am hearing about it anyway as if it were. She speaks to me mostly through Post-Its and emails. Now she is capable of speaking to people and very pleasantly, and has done so to me in the past. But more often that not she will do that either on the phone or in person and as soon as that conversation is over she returns to the not speaking to me. It's wierd. I've talked about this with my counselor who recognized that she "holds her cards very close" and I try to remember this. But it is still difficult and at times upsetting for me. I know I am not there to be her friend or buddy but that does not make it any easier. She's one of those people that takes a very long time to get to know and I understand that too. Still some pleasant words or merely acknowledgement of my existence would be nice. She is the complete opposite of my previous employer who would never stop talking to me. But I have had an experience before where the attorney and the other assistant would go for days without talking to me but conversed heavily between each other. I've got some PTSD from those previous jobs and part of my current reaction is related to that. But still... OK, I'll shut up now.