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bigbutchmistie · 12-17-2009, 08:41 AM

When I was adopted they changed my middle name and my last name. They kept mine and my brother's first names. Our middle names have significant meaning. The foster parents that knew my adopted parents that introduced us. We took their names as middle names. I know what my born name is. When I met my real mom, and she and I developed a close relationship I wanted to change it back. After her death in 2001. I havent even thought about doing it again. Guess that would be something that I could do.

I am truly grateful for the fact that my brother and I were not separated. I dont know how I would have survived the years of abuse without him.

I went to therapy for years to get past my anger at them. Now, I dont feel badly regarding their choice of not having me in their lives.

I still have problems around this time of the year. Due to the fact I have flashbacks of being locked in my room for days and brought out only to clean up after their Christmas with my brother. And so many other abuse during this time of the year. Doctor's have said that is normal.

What a difference years make. I now have a relationship with the foster mom and dad who had to give up a chance of adopting us because she had been diagnosed with breast cancer. Recently, I finally came out to her. And even though she was religious she still is accepting. Its great to have that out on the table. And to know they accept.

I have often wondered if the reason I dont want kids or wanna be with someone with kids is because of my childhood.

We all have horror stories and while they are horrible and things are hurtful. Its made us the quality individuals we are today. And as someone stated earlier in a post any partner or person now or in the future proud to have us in their lives.

12-17-2009, 08:41 AM	#72
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	When I was adopted they changed my middle name and my last name. They kept mine and my brother's first names. Our middle names have significant meaning. The foster parents that knew my adopted parents that introduced us. We took their names as middle names. I know what my born name is. When I met my real mom, and she and I developed a close relationship I wanted to change it back. After her death in 2001. I havent even thought about doing it again. Guess that would be something that I could do. I am truly grateful for the fact that my brother and I were not separated. I dont know how I would have survived the years of abuse without him. I went to therapy for years to get past my anger at them. Now, I dont feel badly regarding their choice of not having me in their lives. I still have problems around this time of the year. Due to the fact I have flashbacks of being locked in my room for days and brought out only to clean up after their Christmas with my brother. And so many other abuse during this time of the year. Doctor's have said that is normal. What a difference years make. I now have a relationship with the foster mom and dad who had to give up a chance of adopting us because she had been diagnosed with breast cancer. Recently, I finally came out to her. And even though she was religious she still is accepting. Its great to have that out on the table. And to know they accept. I have often wondered if the reason I dont want kids or wanna be with someone with kids is because of my childhood. We all have horror stories and while they are horrible and things are hurtful. Its made us the quality individuals we are today. And as someone stated earlier in a post any partner or person now or in the future proud to have us in their lives.