Unn first I'll say I'm very sorry for your loss, I lost my mom last year so I do have some idea what you're going through.
Death is a very touchy subject, taboo even to some... and we all deal with it differently... I don't think this thread is all about gallows humor. For me the story I told was pretty much a very painful true experiance that I was able to finally kind of laugh about here and thus let go of some of that pain.
As I said we all deal with things differently...
Anyway Andrew started a "Grieving" thread that's been helpful to me and perhaps you may find some solice among those going through or having gone through similar things as yourself.
http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/forum/showthread.php?t=80
I wish you peace
Metro