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Originally Posted by ravfem
How do y'all know the difference between someone flirting with you and someone having fun with a friend?
i've had this conversation many times over the past year or so, since being in an online community again.
The consensus is that i flirt, a lot. With a lot of people. But, my reality is that i flirt with 2 people here. 2. Seriously.
Only....i'm not meaning to flirt at all, usually. In my mind, i am having fun joking with people i consider to be e-friends, or responding to a great post that made me laugh (or think). But it is taken as flirting..... 
Wonder if i put a disclaimer on each snippet/message/conversation:
"This is rav being friendly. she is not flirting. Really."
Do y'all think that would help??
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Hi rav,
I think (my opinion only) that what's flirting to one isn't necessarily flirting to another.
At the same time, if you're getting this feedback a lot, then you might want to consider how you're coming across. I don't think adding a disclaimer on everything you say is needed, or even helpful.
For example....if several (or many) people tell me that I am coming across as angry, or negative, or bitchy, or *pick the adjective of your choice*, then me saying "I'm not being negative or..." on everything I say isn't going to convince anyone either.
If I'm getting that feedback (especially from people who actually like me), then I probably should sit with that and consider it for awhile. I may or may not change my behavior...because that's up to me, not anyone else. If I choose not to, then I may need to be prepared for the repercussions however.
Just my .02
