[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by princessbelle

Christmas is hard this year having just lost my brother a few weeks ago.

Harder on my mom of course. She wasn't sure if she was going to put up a tree or not.

My son went over there yesterday and got it out for her and put it up...without the decorations on it. Thought we would let her decide.

Called her this morning...she is puttin on the decorations now .

There will be a voice that is not there Christmas morning....a present that is not given.....a place at the Christmas breakfast table that is empty....The one that ALWAYS wore the santa hat not there........A smile that is missed....A beautiful spirit that is not seen first hand but that is felt.

Life goes on.

princessbelle,

I am so sorry. I did not know that your brother passed away.

My father passed away this Spring and my maternal grandmother a couple of months ago.

It is going to be a tough Christmas.

My sister will not be in town this year, so it will just be me and mom. We have decided to change things up and she will come stay here at my house Xmas eve and then we will both go to my gf's for Christmas in the morning.

This way we will be doing nothing like we typically do every year. I don't want to see his empty place at the breakfast table on Christmas morning, and I don't want to notice the lack of ever present video camera in my face. I think this will help. You really might want to change some things up.

She does not want a tree and this is ok. It sounds like you guys made a good decision in putting up the tree, so that your mom had the option to decorate.

Hang in there. Know you can PM me if you want to talk.