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Originally Posted by Arwen
For me, lesbian is synonymous with a woman who enjoys having female-oriented sex with another woman. My butch lover may be a lesbian (and that's all right by me) but I am not a lesbian in that there are aspects of lesbian sex that do not appeal to me in any shape, form or fashion.
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This kind of says to me, say, for example: that if a straight man, who enjoys having sex with a woman - doesn't like anal sex, and say he doesn't like performing oral sex on her - would this make him less heterosexual? No, he is a bio man attracted sexually to a bio woman. Bedroom activities may vary.
But I know that this is one reason why you don't ID as lesbian - but since this particular statement was posted, it kind of jumped out at me.
I think what is being said is :
If you were
born a biological female and you are attracted (in whatever way) to other biological females, you are, by default, a homosexual, thus = lesbian.
What
you do with the word, is purely up to
you.
(And of course I mean, the general 'you').