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Originally Posted by Arwen
I apologize if my post did not address what you wanted me to understand, Metropolis. While I do see what you are saying about lesbian sex being a stereotype, I think you are missing my point. That's okay. Like I said, I do not have any issues with how you identify.
Okay, here is what I SERIOUSLY do not get.
How is it that by my saying that I do not identify as a lesbian...how am I insulting anyone? HOw is that a negative comment towards someone who does?
That's a lot like saying I am insulting all raspberry lovers when I say I think raspberries are disgusting.
Huh? I really am not getting this, am I? I am struggling right now with trying to share how I personally view my own personal identity. I am not saying that going down on a woman should squick you out, Apocalipstic. I am not saying that it can not be a fabulous, erotic, romantic, mind-blowing experiencing for you.
I am saying that for me it is a traumatic event that I never want to repeat again in this lifetime.
How does my personal choice reflect on yours? How does my saying I do not want to be called a lesbian translate into I think all lesbians are yucky?
I am really really really not understanding this and I am posting this from a very emotional place right now. I am also going to leave for work in a few so my non-response just means I am afk and not that I am ignoring the conversation.
To be really clear, I am not angry at this discussion. I am hurt by it but not angered.
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The very last thing I want to do is hurt you! xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Just sometimes when someone new, or who thinks differently says we are all Lesbians, the responses can sound like being a Lesbian is the most disgusting thing in the world.
I understand that to you, this is true and I understand why.
I just wish that the general you, not you personally, would maybe use a softer tone when discussing Lesbians.
It is just as hurtful to us/them, as it was to you those times when someone told you you were not a good Lesbian.
Make sense at all?