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Old 01-01-2010, 09:46 PM   #5
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apretty, is YOUR identity fetish/objectification/dehumanizing of your partner? Does YOUR identity depend one whit upon that of your partner?

A Transensual Femme IS a human being, a full human being, just as any other kind of Femme is a full human being. She does not de-humanize her partner.

The ideas that T-Femmes are somehow incomplete as humans and that they somehow de-humanize their partners are incredibly demeaning stereotypes. Why is it that anyone would ask this of a Transensual Femme when NO ONE asks it of a Transman? Why would anyone ask this of a Femme when NO ONE asks it of a Butch?

Speaking as a Transensual Femme, my identity is about MY soul, MY personality, and MY life. Anyone who would think that I would objectify or dehumanize another person just doesn't know me at all. I'm not some freakish "other"; I'm a Femme who is beyond grateful that her natural counterparts exist in this world. I'm a Femme who is able to partner with Stone Butches, Third Gender Butches, GenderQueer Butches, and Transmen, and I count myself amazingly lucky to have found them and to have found myself, both.

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