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T D · 03-06-2011, 01:12 PM

I can't say that I've experienced this male privilege yet as people are still waffling between she/he with me. It's so odd, I can go into one store and be called he or sir, then turn right around and go into a different store and be called she or ma'am. Now that I'm letting a little facial hair grow this will most likely change though.

It should be very interesting (to say the least) to experience the world differently from what I've been experiencing it for the past nearly 60 years. Since I feel like the same person I've always felt like I forget (for the most part) that how others experience me may change my privilege and/or position in the world at large. I personally don't think that this is going to be an easy adjustment, and I'm mostly stunned at how so many people think that my decision to start using "T" was easy and is about wanting privilege or something. This whole concept is completely foreign to me.

I really don't believe that anyone ever knows exactly what another person experiences internally. And what I find fascinating as all get out is how people will "speculate" on what something is "about" for others without even checking in with those others.

Just a few of my thoughts at the moment

03-06-2011, 01:12 PM	#253
T D Member How Do You Identify?: Person of the trans variety Preferred Pronoun?: He, Sir, Bro, TD, Stevin Relationship Status: On occasion Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SF Bay Area Posts: 1,165 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,428 Thanked 1,125 Times in 311 Posts Rep Power: 3570339	I can't say that I've experienced this male privilege yet as people are still waffling between she/he with me. It's so odd, I can go into one store and be called he or sir, then turn right around and go into a different store and be called she or ma'am. Now that I'm letting a little facial hair grow this will most likely change though. It should be very interesting (to say the least) to experience the world differently from what I've been experiencing it for the past nearly 60 years. Since I feel like the same person I've always felt like I forget (for the most part) that how others experience me may change my privilege and/or position in the world at large. I personally don't think that this is going to be an easy adjustment, and I'm mostly stunned at how so many people think that my decision to start using "T" was easy and is about wanting privilege or something. This whole concept is completely foreign to me. I really don't believe that anyone ever knows exactly what another person experiences internally. And what I find fascinating as all get out is how people will "speculate" on what something is "about" for others without even checking in with those others. Just a few of my thoughts at the moment __________________ “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”