[little_ms_sunshyne]

Hmmm...this would be the third time I visit this thread and still am having trouble with what I want my response to be. So lets see if I can express my thoughts correctly...

I did not receive much nurturing growing up. My parents were young and still growing up themselves. Most of the affection I received was from my grandmother who moved away when I was very young. There is a significant age gap between my 3 younger siblings and myself. I knew from the moment that they were born that I NEVER wanted them to feel like I did. I wanted them to feel loved and secure in themselves. My learning to nurture began there. I cared for them by not only providing them with all those basic needs but always showing affection. Having a warm demeanor towards them and everything I do for them.

How does that translate into my relationship? I naturally fall into the "housewife" role because of this. I like making sure that hys needs are met whether that means cooking, physical and emotional affection, also taking on a somewhat submissive role. If hy is pleased then I am happy. In return, he is my "protector" and takes good care of me. He listens to my thoughts, encourages my dreams, always affectionate, and provides a great deal of comfort to my heart and my mind. I also believe that it is the little things that we do for eachother that make you feel nurtured.

There are so many ways that one can feel nurtured or nurture. I personally, enjoy nurturing myself through what I call "food for the brain". I love to read, am part of writing and literature circles, attend art openings, help with charities, give to my community, etc...etc.... I submerge myself in a culture rich environment. Knowledge and appreciation of the beauty around us is a big deal to me and I tend to pass this on to my students as well.

If this makes any sense...That is what nurturing is to me!