[Kenna]

I've been off the market since 1996, seriously....and for MANY years, I was not interested in or even thought about dating or relationships. I didn't want a "revolving door" in my son's life; raising him without more upset from him getting attached to someone who might not be around for long, or might not accept him as a "package deal" was very important to me. A revolving door in a child's life can do much harm. I can prove that...

I stayed off the market for several reasons, that being the most important to me....

Then, once he was out of the house on his own, when I did decided to date "mom's neighbor" in the Summer of 2007 (a Soft Butch I'd had a minor crush on for 5 years) and come out at the same time.... I still considered myself off the market, but not because I was dating. (WOW!! 11+ years without "any"! no wonder I had a crush on Min!)

When I was/am single: I'm off the market because dating or the possibility of a relationship happens on my terms.... and I don't go looking for "it", nor am I open to "propositions". I don't like being pursued or someone being "aggressive" with their interest in dating me or other sexual attractions....(I certainly don't like an aggressor...it sends me into a "bad zone"...)....I am a loner, most often. I was never comfortable in the "dating scene" or actively pursuing a "mate" and I'm NEVER comfortable with someone "coming on to me"....it's just not in my comfort zone.

If/when I decide to become involved with someone, I am off the market... not solely because of monogamy, but because it has more to do with it takes a great deal of effort and a VERY special "place" for me to consider or be actively involved and/or intimate with any individual. Sharing that level of intimacy for me and of me is a VERY special place. I haven't found a comfort zone that allows me to share that place with "just anyone" that might peek my interest. ...I have dated some since 2007, but I must be in MY comfort zone to share "my all". Just because I date, look around or play the field, does not mean to me that I am "on the market".... maybe dating means to me that I am trying to see where that person or situation fits in "my zone"?

If a person does not appreciate, respect or honor my "special place" ... then I become mentally and sometimes physically off the market.... I might share intimate things/times with them.... but I become guarded and refuse to "give my all"; therefore, parts of me are off the market.