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violaine · 05-09-2011, 08:10 AM

[QUOTE=Andrew, Jr.;335431]
Belle,

Did you ever experience the situation where people set you up to fail at work?

yes! six months into 2005, a situation arose with my being on a board. i was asked at my address, then later nominated for the position, and i thought of many positive ideas for involving this communiy with its residents and small town. what i did not know, and could not have conceived of, andrew, was that the majority of board members wanted me to discourage a woman from attending functions by eliminating her in the process of voting, volunteerism, common day-to-day issues, et c. people saw her as 'weak' and could not 'see' her disability. they were very cruel and expected that i would support them because they did, after all, 'want me' as their 'leader.' what they failed to see in setting me up for failure, was that i am not a weak person. witnessing the preying on people viewed as weak freaked me out and i could hardly believe my eyes, but it happened. i was used, and did maintain my post for a year, but with new supporters

i posted on this before. the woman had been bullied right off of riding a bus to get her groceries, and it did take me some time to straighten that out with the transportation supervisor, because she had 'bought into' the horrible stories herself about someone she had never even met.

05-09-2011, 08:10 AM	#344
violaine Timed Out How Do You Identify?: atypical Preferred Pronoun?: plague words and phrases Relationship Status: love wise guys of the avian world Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: wekiva springs basin Posts: 3,236 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,934 Thanked 3,293 Times in 1,301 Posts Rep Power: 0	[QUOTE=Andrew, Jr.;335431] Belle, Did you ever experience the situation where people set you up to fail at work? yes! six months into 2005, a situation arose with my being on a board. i was asked at my address, then later nominated for the position, and i thought of many positive ideas for involving this communiy with its residents and small town. what i did not know, and could not have conceived of, andrew, was that the majority of board members wanted me to discourage a woman from attending functions by eliminating her in the process of voting, volunteerism, common day-to-day issues, et c. people saw her as 'weak' and could not 'see' her disability. they were very cruel and expected that i would support them because they did, after all, 'want me' as their 'leader.' what they failed to see in setting me up for failure, was that i am not a weak person. witnessing the preying on people viewed as weak freaked me out and i could hardly believe my eyes, but it happened. i was used, and did maintain my post for a year, but with new supporters i posted on this before. the woman had been bullied right off of riding a bus to get her groceries, and it did take me some time to straighten that out with the transportation supervisor, because she had 'bought into' the horrible stories herself about someone she had never even met. Last edited by violaine; 05-09-2011 at 08:13 AM.