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Originally Posted by T D

Watched the documentary about Chaz earlier and I keep hearing those words "who will love me? Who's going to love a man without a penis?" I think this is something that a lot of transmen ask themselves. It's certainly a legitimate question too. I was especially relieved to hear Chaz say that being a man isn't about what's between your legs, which I also believe. It's about the person as a whole being, who they are, how they treat others, the whole shebang.

Yet another topic that Chaz brought up was about not getting to be a young man. I can so relate to that, hell I didn't even get to be a middle aged man. One of the things that was very difficult for me when deciding whether or not to proceed with my transition was whether or not it would make it more difficult for me to date or find a partner, and especially at my age. I have pretty much resolved to spend the rest of my life as a single person if it comes to that, but honestly, it's a sad thing when you think about it.... that one even has to consider whether or not they're willing to be unattached for the rest of their life in order to live in the body of and be the person they believe themself to be. Very thought provoking for sure.

I don't know, just seemed like an interesting topic for a single FTMs and Femmes thread.

Anyone else have thoughts about this?

I watched the Documentary about Chaz last night as well. I was very taken by the rawness of the material. Everything about it was well put together and well produced. I certainly agree with Chaz when he says that being a man is not about having a penis. I certainly will never know first hand the struggles and challenges a man, such as yourself (T D), goes through. I do know that as a stone femme, gender and my attraction to trans and stone butch doesn't begin with what is in their pants. Its about His personality, the man He IS, the mutual understanding and acceptance of two people, and the understanding of lives we live to feel whole.