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AtLast · 05-13-2011, 04:46 PM

This is a very sensitive issue. Personally, I have not felt this pressure from trans guys online or in real time. I have had an association with transgendered people since the 1960's. And I have an intergendered first cousin. This has been part of my life for a very long time. Yet, as a non-trans FIB, I claim no expertise around issues such as this.

I have, however, felt some pressure from femmes to transition. Now, these are femmes from real-time dating and not one of them (there are 3) are members here. I know that this is also a sensitive statement, as well. I mean no negativity toward any femme by this.

I can also say that I have dated a couple of femmes that wanted to know if I had considered transitioning and were very clear that if I was, they were not for me (again, not members here). LOL, dating again has been pretty crazy! Right now, I ham taking a break from it.

To be honest, I have never quite been able to come to any conclusions about this. It might be related to my living in a region where there are greater numbers of queers of every kind and a center for a lot of services for transgendered people. The question might just come up more because of this. And perhaps many femmes here are just more familiar with transitioning overall and have just thought more about relating to a Transperson. I don't know.

I used to be troubled by this. I'm not any longer. As gender is more understood outside of the traditional binary, I believe there will be more conversation about it. I view this as positive. Seems like a natural occurrence to me. But, these are only my thoughts from personal experience up to this point in my life. I can be upset if the nature of my butch identity as a woman is negated by someone.

I do, however, feel it is very important for anyone that feels any type of pressure about transitioning (or anything else, for that matter) speak out and hold their personal boundaries in place. That does not mean being rude or relying on or perpetuating any stereotypes about transgendered people.

05-13-2011, 04:46 PM	#7
AtLast Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: HER - SHE Relationship Status: Relating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CA & AZ I'm a Snowbird Posts: 5,408 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,826 Thanked 10,827 Times in 3,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	This is a very sensitive issue. Personally, I have not felt this pressure from trans guys online or in real time. I have had an association with transgendered people since the 1960's. And I have an intergendered first cousin. This has been part of my life for a very long time. Yet, as a non-trans FIB, I claim no expertise around issues such as this. I have, however, felt some pressure from femmes to transition. Now, these are femmes from real-time dating and not one of them (there are 3) are members here. I know that this is also a sensitive statement, as well. I mean no negativity toward any femme by this. I can also say that I have dated a couple of femmes that wanted to know if I had considered transitioning and were very clear that if I was, they were not for me (again, not members here). LOL, dating again has been pretty crazy! Right now, I ham taking a break from it. To be honest, I have never quite been able to come to any conclusions about this. It might be related to my living in a region where there are greater numbers of queers of every kind and a center for a lot of services for transgendered people. The question might just come up more because of this. And perhaps many femmes here are just more familiar with transitioning overall and have just thought more about relating to a Transperson. I don't know. I used to be troubled by this. I'm not any longer. As gender is more understood outside of the traditional binary, I believe there will be more conversation about it. I view this as positive. Seems like a natural occurrence to me. But, these are only my thoughts from personal experience up to this point in my life. I can be upset if the nature of my butch identity as a woman is negated by someone. I do, however, feel it is very important for anyone that feels any type of pressure about transitioning (or anything else, for that matter) speak out and hold their personal boundaries in place. That does not mean being rude or relying on or perpetuating any stereotypes about transgendered people.