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always2late · 05-20-2011, 02:55 PM

Very interesting thread...and something I never really thought about until now. And, having given it some thought...I realized that the order of names is something of an anomaly in my family. I am of Italian heritage and, in my case, my upbringing was, I suppose, very "traditional" in regards to masculine and feminine roles. The males of my family were the undisputed "heads of the household", etc.. However, when we addressed my relatives, whether in written or verbal form, the female member of the couple was addressed first, for example, a Christmas card would be addressed to Aunt **** and Uncle ****. And now I am curious as to why this habit, for lack of a better word, came to be within my family. I'll have to ask some family members and see if they have an answer, or the curiosity will drive me out of my tree. LOL

05-20-2011, 02:55 PM	#21
always2late Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: m'lady Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NJ Posts: 2,000 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,834 Thanked 6,231 Times in 1,462 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Very interesting thread...and something I never really thought about until now. And, having given it some thought...I realized that the order of names is something of an anomaly in my family. I am of Italian heritage and, in my case, my upbringing was, I suppose, very "traditional" in regards to masculine and feminine roles. The males of my family were the undisputed "heads of the household", etc.. However, when we addressed my relatives, whether in written or verbal form, the female member of the couple was addressed first, for example, a Christmas card would be addressed to Aunt ** and Uncle . And now I am curious as to why this habit, for lack of a better word, came to be within my family. I'll have to ask some family members and see if they have an answer, or the curiosity will drive me out of my tree. LOL __________________ Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there ~ Rumi**