Rockin,
Size is transient...it is the inside that is constant....
I love to have a big strong butch, with a full rack if I can say that out loud, and strong yet caring arms and shoulders.
When I am on top (not always), I want something to grab onto...a full-figured boi with curves is nice.
What I find unappealing (for me myself) is someone who is too thin and I feel like I am sleeping with a waif. I want butch, but a butch woman.
Don't ever feel bad about who you are because life is not a dress rehearsal. You are who you are. I was 254 lbs at 5'6" and lost over 70 lbs.
I do not feel any different inside... I am still me. I don't look at others and say, why don't you lose weight?... no one did that to me. My wife (now deceased) looked at me just as sexually then as when she first met me (relationship was almost 20 years when she died).
It is attitude, esteem, confidence.... but, I will admit, at any weight, I prefer some arm muscles just because I have various fetishes (don't we all...).
I lost most of my weight through lifting free weights and making better food choices (replacing white sugar/white flour/white pasta with whole grains, more lean proteins and more veggies, etc).
I am who I am. If you love me, you love me for me. If you don't like what you see, get out of line, because you will be quickly replaced.... LMFAO
Happiness is more attractive than the waist line.
Of course, this is just one boi's opinion...