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Originally Posted by Converse
Yes, this rings true for me –when thoughts however fleeting crossed my mind about transitioning- it was never about the “next stage”, it was about becoming “other”.
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Well said, Converse. For me, it's never been about the "next stage" or becoming "other". It's always been about being more accepting of my cisbutch self.
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Originally Posted by Converse
And it is this, this understanding or lack of, that has always been the source of any external pressure – however well meaning. This “pressure” usually comes from within, not outside, of the community – and when I have felt it, I silently tell you “with all of your learning, your wanting to empathise and all of your awareness – if you still can not look at me and see Butch without thinking you are looking at someone who has not yet arrived, then you can not see me at all.”
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Butches are doubly pressured to be self-othering. First by dominant culture and its gender constructs, then by forces within
the community with theirs.
Butches who succumb to this "othering the self/selfing the other", are doubly-colonized.
Damn, as if life wasn't hard enough.
