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Puplove · 06-20-2011, 11:06 PM

I have one:

Be the Oiler.

Funny how all those MUSTS become insignificant when you meet the one, because the one just fits. If everything was exactly according to the requirements I'd planned, it would be kind of creepy. How would I know the Oiler was a real person and not just a a co-dependent extension of myself? Someone with real wishes, self-determination, quirks and flaws that don't depend on my approval? A real person I can love and trust to be himself while loving me for who I am too.

A key ingredient is that I had to love and be confident in myself and my flaws, and quirks first, to be truly happy with myself and my own company. Then, the person right for you can find you because you're showing your true self in every situation.

06-20-2011, 11:06 PM	#26
Puplove Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Austin TX Posts: 904 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 879 Thanked 3,215 Times in 705 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I have one: Be the Oiler. Funny how all those MUSTS become insignificant when you meet the one, because the one just fits. If everything was exactly according to the requirements I'd planned, it would be kind of creepy. How would I know the Oiler was a real person and not just a a co-dependent extension of myself? Someone with real wishes, self-determination, quirks and flaws that don't depend on my approval? A real person I can love and trust to be himself while loving me for who I am too. A key ingredient is that I had to love and be confident in myself and my flaws, and quirks first, to be truly happy with myself and my own company. Then, the person right for you can find you because you're showing your true self in every situation. __________________ Alice laughed: "There's no use trying," she said; "one can't believe impossible things." "I daresay you haven't had much practice," said the Queen. "...Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast." Last edited by Puplove; 06-20-2011 at 11:07 PM. Reason: oh grammar - a flaw!