High love for myself-without that, no one else is getting through my walls.
Acceptance for all I am, faults and all, BUT also someone who will push me in the ample behind when I make up my mind to better myself. Challenge me, dare me.
I don't
need gifts, but if you want to give me one, make it something personal-like you know who I am. The best are made, or planned. Something simple like my favorite dinner on the "good" dishes, followed by slow dancing in the living room...etc.
For example, it would rock my world if she would massage me; better still if she snuck out and took massage classes just to learn how to pleasure me
. I was married to a man who gave me a gift certificate for the cheapest massage at a spa, and I had to drive myself there and back. No more.
I must have laughter, enough to make my sides hurt and so I can't breathe, tears rolling down my face. I won't ever be with someone who can't make me laugh. I hope I make my future girlfriend laugh the same way.
I must have someone who listens to me and who doesn't talk to me while walking out of the room.
Be reliable and authentic.
Tolerate me when I'm a big kid and love cool things, whether you think they are or not; better yet, sometimes be a big kid yourself. This does not mean being childish or un-adult when seriousness is needed.
I like the physical part of a relationship often. Very often. This is my primary "love language", from that book. It does not always mean sex; I love contact, period. Don't expect me to warm all over you in bed if you've not touched me at all during the rest of the day.
That's a long list, all to say I can't define it but I know when I feel it
