[Kenna]

Originally Posted by tapu

Who gets to decide what is normal?? Are you saying no one does? We are lucky that there are some wide parameters that as a culture we basically agree on.

Regardless of whether you think the cultural poll for this one would put it squarely in the acceptable rating, they are imposing on this kid something they know is painful for him and something that as adults, they can probably survive putting aside, for the child whose nurturing they are responsible for.

How very well stated!! Hit the nail on the head moment here.
Nurturing -vs- forced acceptance ...there's real parenting skills involved when nurturing wins