[princessbelle]

Originally Posted by Converse

Ok Lets try this….

For the people who have partnered with a Stone Butch, I’m curious what was the “thought process” that you went through the very first time- did you discuss it before/afterwards with the Butch or others, was it a surprise, something you had to adjust to – or did you know that you were looking for a Stone, and what that would mean?

Good questions. For me, i had been on the dash site and dance awhile before i had my first experience with a Stone. I had read a lot, so i was at least somewhat knowledgable of what stone meant. I adjusted quite easily and just tried to be polite and respectful and i certainly hope that was accomplished.

What i have found, however, is that even with the ID as stone, it is still so individualized that nothing is written in...yes i'm gonna say it....stone.

I, personally, don't seek out stone, or FTM or whatever the ID. If i'm attracted, i'm attracted. If it goes farther than that and things get moving, communication is the key of course. Yes i would ask the questions of boundries which are VERY important with any ID.

I've dated a couple, ok a few, stones and none of them are exactly the same with the way they see themselves or their boundries.

Dating someone who IDs as stone, in my experience, is not a cut and dry identity and thankfully it is unique, informative, and exciting each time.