[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Converse

Ok Lets try this….

For the people who have partnered with a Stone Butch, I’m curious what was the “thought process” that you went through the very first time- did you discuss it before/afterwards with the Butch or others, was it a surprise, something you had to adjust to – or did you know that you were looking for a Stone, and what that would mean?

I don't think I had a conscious thought process in the matter, but looking back on past relationships, I see a very distinct movement...a graduation from one end of the spectrum to the other, with Stone being the final destination. So, when I was finally with someone who was Stone, I just *knew*.

Sure, there were specific boundaries to define and outline and, as previously mentioned, those are very specific to the individual, but relationships felt right for the first time ever. I didn't have to try so hard to be 'right' or do the 'right' things and I wasn't made to feel guilty or selfish about my own boundaries. I felt seen for the first time in forever.

That fact....the ease of it all...was surprising to me. I tend to unintentionally...subconsciously...make things more difficult than they need to be but not this.