Ooooh, i LIKE this thought!
First of all, I want to bring up something that stood out about your post. This individual is very young, and their partners turned away from them when dialogue was opened about their sexual desires.
This sounds to me like perhaps the youth and inexperience of this individual's partners caused them to behave selfishly or perhaps a bit immaturely in this case. It can be a folly of youth to subscribe to the idea that lesbianism means one particular way of being intimate (i fell into that trap once, myself). There may be a lack of information available to this person's partners, or this person's partners may not have the compassion or patience to explore different intimacies (another folly of youth I was guilty of once upon a time). Conversely, if a stone relationship isn't what worked best for them, it's probably in everyone's best interest to discover that as soon as possible.
That being said, I feel I can only speak from experience when I say I, as a femme, would have no problem dating an androgynous individual who self identifies as stone. Clearly a dialogue is in order prior to physical intimacy, but a person's sexual preferences and proclivities have never been enough to scare me away. I'll try anything twice.
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Originally Posted by Converse
Some really interesting posts, thank you for the insight. And it leads me to my next question…
Elsewhere a very young person posted that they had just discovered the term Stone, and with that discovery a lot of things started to make sense for her/hym. The person posted that until now their involvement has been only with those who identify as lesbian, and that when she/hy tries to raise the topic of how she/hy relates sexually to others they turn away. Feeling hurt and rejected, the person asked do I keep trying to explain, or do I just keep looking?
It made me think about those who have no exposure to Butch-Femme dynamics, and how because of a fear of rejection by their peer group, suppress and yearn in silence.... So, can someone id as an androgynous presenting "stone" lesbian, and find interest from a stonefemme?
Of course I have my own opinion, but am curious to hear what others might have to say.
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