Ahhh --- CL - seems to be a love it or hate it site. You hear horror stories - and then like a few postings here - from those who have found love or at least friends...
CL used to be a great site to post on - but I find anymore - it has turned into ... those seeking just a "hook up" - rather than a genuine relationship - whether that be friends or otherwise.
Perhaps I am too old school - I still believe in old fashioned romance - and I believe that a lot more people want that - than will admit.
I've used CL twice - once that disastrous effects - the other time - a brief- passionate romance - that taught we both learned from - and we have remained friends ---
I just tonight - was thinking of posting again ---as I have been thinking about romance ---
So - here it is -
Is romance still alive and well??? ---
Here it is Tuesday mid-morning and I wonder why I am not calling the florist to have flowers delivered to a special lady...or making plans to cook out and have a nice fire on a chilly evening to be followed by a good movie and maybe a glass of wine ... and then? ....I wonder what happened to the idea of "dating"... the idea of actually "calling" someone ...not "texting" and "asking" them if they would like to go to out for a nice dinner, maybe a movie or concert...a walk in the park on a sunday afternoon...a festival for a BBQ and art fair...then you actually pick them up...take them out...pay for their dinner and whatever else might come along...take them home...walk them to the door...and maybe..."just" maybe...be brave enough to kiss them goodnight...make sure they get in safely and then "ask" ...may you "call" again...and tell them "in person" you had a nice time...and leave "something" to be "anticipated" ... I mean...does anyone want that anymore...does anyone "Date" anymore...or is it all just "hook ups" or FWB or one night stands or "booty calls" with no commitments...or just emails and texts ...not that I don't enjoy the electronic age...but I am just curious...doesn't just the idea of "dating" with the possibility that their could be genuine caring and love that grows over time appeal to anyone anymore? The idea of spoiling the woman you care about...doing such special things for her that she knows you love her and think about her...the way you look at her across from the table at the restaurant and your eyes tell her that she is the most beautiful woman in the world and she takes your breath away...romance...doesn't anyone want or appreciate the art of romance anymore? Having the "Date" pay for your dinner...hold your coat...open the car door...stand in the rain for three hours to buy concert tickets for your favorite band...to surprise you...unexpected cards...flowers...yes...just because it is a tuesday...
I think about those things...I "want" those things...and I have to believe that someone...somewhere out there...wants that too...
_________BUT then I erased and didn't post ----as well I am a butch - and I enjoy femme women - and I find when reading on CL - that it is not as it used to be - not all that butch/femme friendly ---or at least that is my considered opinion after reading several postings and what people are seeking ---
And I say all of that to say ---nothing ventured - nothing gained - and you just "never" know ---so go for it!
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