[tantalizingfemme]

In your observations, what exactly do you see/feel is abuse and/or neglect?

Based on what you have shared, I am not quite sure what is abusive or neglectful. Smoking in the house, too many people in and out could be chalked up to be poor judgment and choices...but it does not mean it is an abusive or neglectful home. (chaotic maybe)

You said the two girls are close friends with your daughter...have they said anything or present a picture of any kind of abuse occurring or neglect? I am honestly asking because I am not necessarily seeing anything exceptionally alarming based on the information.