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nycfem · 07-22-2011, 12:43 PM

I love this thread. I get great ideas from it, support, and community. Something that I struggle with when I join groups/ people/ threads of this kind is that sizest comments get interspersed with all the helpful self-esteem building stuff! A few times the word "fat" has been put in quotes and then denigrated (as if that makes it okay). It always makes me flinch. As a woman of size/ fat person/ full-figured gal, I want to be able to be on a "healthy weight loss" thread while still feeling safe that I am in a size positive space. I think that part of why these fat phobic comments occur is because of ignorance. We live in a society that indoctrinates us with all kinds of negative stereotypes about fat people: that we are lazy, that we can't participate in certain sports, that we need to recover, etc. IMO getting healthier, in addition to all the concrete stuff that we share, is about learning how to leave all this sizeist crap at the door. There may be some of us who hate our fat selves but a lot of us love our fat selves and will love ourselves whatever weight and activity level we end up choosing. What I love about this thread is the word "healthy," so let's keep it healthy and a safe space: mind and body.

07-22-2011, 12:43 PM	#561
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,793 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,987 Thanked 21,489 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I love this thread. I get great ideas from it, support, and community. Something that I struggle with when I join groups/ people/ threads of this kind is that sizest comments get interspersed with all the helpful self-esteem building stuff! A few times the word "fat" has been put in quotes and then denigrated (as if that makes it okay). It always makes me flinch. As a woman of size/ fat person/ full-figured gal, I want to be able to be on a "healthy weight loss" thread while still feeling safe that I am in a size positive space. I think that part of why these fat phobic comments occur is because of ignorance. We live in a society that indoctrinates us with all kinds of negative stereotypes about fat people: that we are lazy, that we can't participate in certain sports, that we need to recover, etc. IMO getting healthier, in addition to all the concrete stuff that we share, is about learning how to leave all this sizeist crap at the door. There may be some of us who hate our fat selves but a lot of us love our fat selves and will love ourselves whatever weight and activity level we end up choosing. What I love about this thread is the word "healthy," so let's keep it healthy and a safe space: mind and body.