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girl_dee · 07-25-2011, 10:37 AM

Thank you Ms Sassy! I love the concept of it all and admit that there is something very attractive about it for me and it isn't sexual but the ability to love more. EXACTLY. Although I do love the perks!!!

As you know I'm gonna pick your brain and of course others are welcome to ask questions and share their point of view in a respectful fashion. I welcome all questions, I love this!

Ms Sassy prior to meeting your Daddi had you been in a poly relationship or considered one? Had never been in one, neither had Daddi, it was a surprise when my Slave Sister asked Syr to keep me! Their marriage was solid, not broken or needing to fill a void when I came along. I have always adored how they love each other. I would have never ventured into a relationship that needed to be *fixed*.

How did you meet the people you are with now? I met Syr years ago on BF! We fell instantly into a D/s relationship and I have thrived on Her as my Syr for a long time. We took a break from the D/s relationship but never once did the bond break, I missed her SO much during that 3 months. I felt lost and broken. Once it was the right time we fell right back into the D/s at my begging her to be my Syr once again. She came to see me and the physical presence of Her was one I felt so wonderful in, and I think she liked me too! Still we were very very platonic! She was and is very happily married for a long time to my Spirit Sister aurora, who I have been in constant contact with over these few years. Syr and I always respected the marriage and we never ventured past a platonic D/s relationship. Their marriage always came first to me, respecting it and making sure it was honored at all time. I was needing so much of my own work to do I never wavered from that, and Syr was strictly business too. I came here as needing a place to stay in the winter from the resort that I was living in and once here, I knew I was *home*. Syr is my real life hero over and over. Once here and my Sister and I clicked instantly, she asked Syr to keep me and informed both of us that we have loved each other very deeply for a long time, that it was wonderful and OK. We were both like

, Huh? Well she was RIGHT! I did love Syr very deeply only I had no idea what it was. I remember telling friends, *what is this connection I feel to Syr? It's so deep! *
From there, getting that permission and gift from my Sister to allow love to flow, it has, we are all three quite in love and happy. I love my Sister very deeply as she is one of the finest human beings I have ever known, and Syr, What can I say, I absolutely LOVE my Syr. Syr took me walking one day when I got here and I was so down and sad, she sat me on a rock and sat next to me, I asked if I could lay my head on her lap, she said yes and I did. That very moment I felt the zing that I knew would be forever. I am so blessed!

By work, what exactly do you mean? What are the biggest challenges and the greatest joys? Maybe a list of pro's and con's?

Work.. ahh work... well my Sister explained it quite well. Poly is like a spider web, if you get a tug on one side, the whole things shifts and moves. If one of us is *off*, we are all off. AND we have this very big need to *help* each other in this family, we are learning that not all words need an action, and sometimes just being heard is all that is needed. We never go around an issue, we plow right thru it the hard way. The plowing is hard work, words don't come easy and it's very hard to convey feelings without hurting someone, but sometimes we have to learn it's not all about us.

Challenges - Not wanting to save or help the others unless they ask for it, sometimes people just have an *off* day or are dealing with their own issues, let them deal with it unless you are asked to help. (TOUGH!)

Also sharing one bathroom can be a lil hectic for poor Syr.

Joys- The companionship and bond. I have a wonderful Sister who understands me and is patient and caring. There is NOT a mean or malicious bone in her body. She has given me the greatest gift, sharing her wonderful Syr with me on this level.

Play! We are in BDSM so enjoying play with my Sister and our very amazing Master is a new level for me. My Sister and I enjoy time with her apart and together, it's a very deep level of intimacy. When we engage together, the bond gets deeper each time.

Family- We are a family unit of 5, 3 of us are nuclear family. The bois do not live here or engage in any type of play. Daddi is Daddi to 5, Master of two slaves. The bois would do anything for any of us. The bois go back as friends with Syr before the girls came along. I love that my Syr is capable of very long term relationships, I look forward to a future of being part of this wonderful life. Syr looks after one Boi in town with the help of us girls. Syr provides a wonderful place for her to live and makes sure she has everything she needs as she needs this. This boi lives a wonderful life because of Syr that she would not have otherwise. The other boi is happily married and lives 5 min from the farm, she comes over just about daily for coffee and Daddi visits. They have both been a great help to the farm as well.

How many people are in your family and what roles do they play? See above.

Do you all sleep together or take turns like in Big Love? We sleep wherever we are told to., We each have a bedroom and we also enjoy time together.

The Master has a Master bedroom and She decides where everyone sleeps. That is all I will say about that!

Do you get jealous or do others get jealous of you? I am not jealous because it is made sure that I have no reason to be. When I see my Syr and Sister engaging in anything, it brings me great joy. I get WAY more time with Syr than my Sister so anytime that they are together, I am very happy. They always want me to join them in whatever they are doing but I always try to be sure they have alone time if I can scatter myself for that.

Does you family talk about adding others? Syr says HELL NO. She locked the gate! With a BIG lock!

Are there any gay poly groups or support venues out there? No idea, but we are writing our own rules. It feels so very natural to me. I do believe people can love more than one person, at one time. It's never the same love, but it's a love. There is a lot to be learned on Fetlife and other places I am sure. But we do our own thing here, the way we came to be is very non traditional as far as Poly goes.

That's it for now! Thanks![/QUOTE]

07-25-2011, 10:37 AM	#9
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,958 Times in 13,923 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	Thank you Ms Sassy! I love the concept of it all and admit that there is something very attractive about it for me and it isn't sexual but the ability to love more. EXACTLY. Although I do love the perks!!! As you know I'm gonna pick your brain and of course others are welcome to ask questions and share their point of view in a respectful fashion. I welcome all questions, I love this! Ms Sassy prior to meeting your Daddi had you been in a poly relationship or considered one? Had never been in one, neither had Daddi, it was a surprise when my Slave Sister asked Syr to keep me! Their marriage was solid, not broken or needing to fill a void when I came along. I have always adored how they love each other. I would have never ventured into a relationship that needed to be fixed. How did you meet the people you are with now? I met Syr years ago on BF! We fell instantly into a D/s relationship and I have thrived on Her as my Syr for a long time. We took a break from the D/s relationship but never once did the bond break, I missed her SO much during that 3 months. I felt lost and broken. Once it was the right time we fell right back into the D/s at my begging her to be my Syr once again. She came to see me and the physical presence of Her was one I felt so wonderful in, and I think she liked me too! Still we were very very platonic! She was and is very happily married for a long time to my Spirit Sister aurora, who I have been in constant contact with over these few years. Syr and I always respected the marriage and we never ventured past a platonic D/s relationship. Their marriage always came first to me, respecting it and making sure it was honored at all time. I was needing so much of my own work to do I never wavered from that, and Syr was strictly business too. I came here as needing a place to stay in the winter from the resort that I was living in and once here, I knew I was home. Syr is my real life hero over and over. Once here and my Sister and I clicked instantly, she asked Syr to keep me and informed both of us that we have loved each other very deeply for a long time, that it was wonderful and OK. We were both like , Huh? Well she was RIGHT! I did love Syr very deeply only I had no idea what it was. I remember telling friends, what is this connection I feel to Syr? It's so deep! From there, getting that permission and gift from my Sister to allow love to flow, it has, we are all three quite in love and happy. I love my Sister very deeply as she is one of the finest human beings I have ever known, and Syr, What can I say, I absolutely LOVE my Syr. Syr took me walking one day when I got here and I was so down and sad, she sat me on a rock and sat next to me, I asked if I could lay my head on her lap, she said yes and I did. That very moment I felt the zing that I knew would be forever. I am so blessed! By work, what exactly do you mean? What are the biggest challenges and the greatest joys? Maybe a list of pro's and con's? Work.. ahh work... well my Sister explained it quite well. Poly is like a spider web, if you get a tug on one side, the whole things shifts and moves. If one of us is off, we are all off. AND we have this very big need to help each other in this family, we are learning that not all words need an action, and sometimes just being heard is all that is needed. We never go around an issue, we plow right thru it the hard way. The plowing is hard work, words don't come easy and it's very hard to convey feelings without hurting someone, but sometimes we have to learn it's not all about us. Challenges - Not wanting to save or help the others unless they ask for it, sometimes people just have an off day or are dealing with their own issues, let them deal with it unless you are asked to help. (TOUGH!) Also sharing one bathroom can be a lil hectic for poor Syr. Joys- The companionship and bond. I have a wonderful Sister who understands me and is patient and caring. There is NOT a mean or malicious bone in her body. She has given me the greatest gift, sharing her wonderful Syr with me on this level. Play! We are in BDSM so enjoying play with my Sister and our very amazing Master is a new level for me. My Sister and I enjoy time with her apart and together, it's a very deep level of intimacy. When we engage together, the bond gets deeper each time. Family- We are a family unit of 5, 3 of us are nuclear family. The bois do not live here or engage in any type of play. Daddi is Daddi to 5, Master of two slaves. The bois would do anything for any of us. The bois go back as friends with Syr before the girls came along. I love that my Syr is capable of very long term relationships, I look forward to a future of being part of this wonderful life. Syr looks after one Boi in town with the help of us girls. Syr provides a wonderful place for her to live and makes sure she has everything she needs as she needs this. This boi lives a wonderful life because of Syr that she would not have otherwise. The other boi is happily married and lives 5 min from the farm, she comes over just about daily for coffee and Daddi visits. They have both been a great help to the farm as well. How many people are in your family and what roles do they play? See above. Do you all sleep together or take turns like in Big Love? We sleep wherever we are told to., We each have a bedroom and we also enjoy time together. The Master has a Master bedroom and She decides where everyone sleeps. That is all I will say about that! Do you get jealous or do others get jealous of you? I am not jealous because it is made sure that I have no reason to be. When I see my Syr and Sister engaging in anything, it brings me great joy. I get WAY more time with Syr than my Sister so anytime that they are together, I am very happy. They always want me to join them in whatever they are doing but I always try to be sure they have alone time if I can scatter myself for that. Does you family talk about adding others? Syr says HELL NO. She locked the gate! With a BIG lock! Are there any gay poly groups or support venues out there? No idea, but we are writing our own rules. It feels so very natural to me. I do believe people can love more than one person, at one time. It's never the same love, but it's a love. There is a lot to be learned on Fetlife and other places I am sure. But we do our own thing here, the way we came to be is very non traditional as far as Poly goes. That's it for now! Thanks![/QUOTE]