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Originally Posted by Heart
But back to lesbian pride: If you express pride in being a lesbian and/or honor that history/experience, I don't need to take an inventory of who you've slept with or even what your genitals look like to stand with you under the banner of lesbian pride.
Heart
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Yes, this....thank you Heart.
I know I've said this here and there in various threads....but I truly, deeply wish that we could all just define ourselves and let everyone else do the same.
I don't need to understand how Julie or Snow or Kobi or Bulldog or Dapper or anyone else here defines themselves in order to respect them and their own definition.
If I choose to call myself lesbian or queer or dyke or femme or bisexual...then I am. I happen to know someone who defined herself as a lesbian for years, even though she was a virgin who had had no intimate relationships with anyone. Is she a lesbian to me? Yes, because she claims it.
I agree that language carries weight and has meaning...but I think we use it too often to fracture and splinter and poke and prod.
