Thanks everyone for responding to Christie's post. I sure appreciate the input and the feeling that we aren't the only parents driven nuts ( temporarily/ forevah) by dread teenagers... LOL!
He is a good kid/ young man. I love him and want to strangle him on a daily basis. LOL! When we are able to stay in good cheer about it, we see the progress he HAS made in the last year. It is actually pretty phenomenal. I think often, that is where so much of the frustration comes from. He is capable of far more than he is willing to do.
I know I was no picnic in my teen years, so I try to keep that in mind. We will just keep plugging away until we find that magic button that helps him "get it". I think he'll stumble across it around age 30. It is well hidden just behind the crap under his bed.
Thanks again folks. I know Christie brought this up, however, it is very important to me.