Thank you Dapper and Debby
It really does help to hear that some of this is normal...for me and for her.
Unfortunately she won't share any information about the stage of her cancer (claims that they didn't tell her...which is nonsense...and that she doesn't want to know...which sounds like her). With HIPAA they won't/can't tell me anything...at her request no one has anything beyond being an emergency contact.
One foot in front of the other is the theme (for both of us I think) at this point. My boss has been totally supportive (it helps that his mother has had 3 bouts with cancer)....which is a big help....although there are a lot of days when I find myself staring at the computer screen and totally unmotivated to do anything for work. Thank goodness I work from home so no one can see me.
I'm pretty sure that I'm driving Scoote completely nuts...because I really can't explain why one minute I'm fine and the next I'm truly not. Poor her. It has to be crazy-making.
Anyway...thank you to you both again. It really helps just to be able to talk/write about it.