Kobi - Aj had just read herself termed as a "once-man" yet you think she owed YOU something? She wasn't setting you up by withdrawing, she was protecting
herself - which she has every right to do. Taking the victim position here really stretches the limits of credulity.
Nothing is being dumped on you, no one is holding you solely accountable for this thread, or what happened in it, but it's also nobody else's fault or responsibility that you didn't see something or understand it. Least of all Aj.
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Originally Posted by Kobi
Aj,
I have a great deal of respect for you.
I am dismayed to learn you and others saw something going on in this thread that I didnt. And rather than speak to it, even privately, you and others decided to sit back and see what happened. And, now, after the fact, you and others almost seem to be patting yourselves on the back for having knowledge others didnt. You sat back and did nothing but it is ok to chastize others after the fact?
Wow. Kind of a throw back to women against women days of the old feminism.
I, of course, feel you set me and this thread up. And that feels pretty shitty. Not surprising but still feels shitty.
And I am getting getting really tired of taking the brunt of this. I did not say a freakin thing about transwomen but the entire thing is getting dumped on me. I didnt see it. I didnt understand the implications of it.
I am happy to own my shit. I anxiously await the day others begin owning theirs.
Oh btw, thanks to those "friends" of mine who had the need to distance themselves. What a powerful message that sends along.
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