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Tcountry · 08-18-2011, 11:47 PM

Dating 101:
How long have you been talking and what are the current intentions?If you have been talking for a long time and the delay in the first meeting is because of distance...
If intentions are long term
If you have actually had a phone convo with the kids

What is the event schedule for this first meeting?Are you meeting mother and kids for dinner and then getting "us time" with just the mother?

How old are the kids and how out/open is the mother?The kids are teenagers, the mom could be very open with them. They could be, like Radiant indicated, the BS meters...lol
Younger kids attach easier and faster (or the ones I have met)
How close is mom to the kids father? How close are the kids?

What is the mother's thought process as to your meeting the kids, and what would you be introduced as?Why is she wanting you to meet them first meeting?
Will you be her "friend", someone she wants to date, etc etc...?

AND these are just the questions I can think of at the moment.
A lot of it has to do with the mother and her intentions and actions/feelings...not only about you but about dating and about her kids.
I have been in a relationship where the father lived in the same town and we all celebrated major holidays together...
I have talked to one lady and during one of the first phone convos talked to her teenage daughter(by daughter's request)...

It is all relivant and every family is as different as every individual person here...I would advise you to keep communication honest and clear before during and after first meeting.

IF you have any doubts or hesitations...please voice them BEFORE you ever meet the kids.

All the living together, and parenting, and stuff like that advise would come later...lol

That is all I have for now.... *tip hat* good luck!

08-18-2011, 11:47 PM	#30
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