[ScandalAndy]

I have a confession to make.


I need to thank everyone who stood up and said "you are excluding your transfeminine sisters".

I consider myself a huge trans ally and activist. I don't want to quantify my contributions, but I do a lot of work in the field with organized groups, as well as helping individuals who are in my life as friends, partners of friends, etc.

I never stopped to think about transgendered lesbians in this discussion, and my privilege as a cisgendered woman blinded me to them. I am sorry to all of the women I inadvertently excluded because of that. This has been a giant kick in the pants that I needed.

Now I am stuck in a dilemma. I do not want to "sweep it under the rug", but I am terribly frustrated because I've just recognized this massive gap in my support and don't know how to fix it. I don't want to have had this epiphany and do nothing with it.

There are a lot of ruffled feathers going on here, and I think maybe I'm not the only one who is a little ashamed at not seeing something happening, or not speaking up, or whatever it is that is causing such discomfort. I hope we can all come full circle and get back to supporting each other.




Also, to all of you talking about current gender theory, I'm a student of that new school and i support it wholeheartedly. That being said, I agree that there are issues that arise when no clear cut boundary lines are drawn. I feel it's very much a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" situation. This causes even MORE frustration for me, which tends to make me withdraw from the conversation and I'm sorry for that. I just don't do well with confrontation and the passion on the threads lately has been off-putting and frightening to me. I don't want to get caught in the crosshairs.