I knew I was a femme when I began experimentally pushing myself toward masculine expression.
I knew I was a femme when I imagined a closet full of masculine clothes and found the idea depressing.
I knew I was a femme when I stopped trying to fit my idea of what a femme is - when I accepted and explored the entire spectrum of my gender experience.
I knew I was a femme the first time I heard Dorothy Allison interviewed.
I'm not really concentrating on my identity at the moment as much as i have in the past. I'm reminded often in the course of my life that I'm a femme - but as time goes on I think about it less and less. I shoot for natural, I shoot for authentic, I shoot for self-expression, I shoot for meaning - I stopped shooting for femme once I realized it was a quality I could neither disown nor deny nor could I chase it down. Still I relish the moments I'm recognized as a femme.
