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theoddz · 08-31-2011, 11:14 AM

I think there are certain things that happen to us in life where we never do really "get over it", and maybe we shouldn't. I think resolution sometimes finally does come when we come to terms with it.

One of my dear friends (and ex) lost her 5 year old daughter in a drowning incident back in the late 60's. She has never "gotten over" it, but she has come to terms with it, in time, and has been able to move forward in her life because of it. I don't know how a person comes to terms, or finds that peace, but somehow they do, in their own way, usually with time. I think it helps, though, when the grieving person is surrounded by the love, support and understanding of others.

The month of May is my "grieving" month, for many quite personal reasons. I usually need a lot of time to myself then, and afterward, I'm okay. Every year that passes gets a little better for me, depending on what else is going on in my life. I keep in mind that I have much to be grateful for in my life. I've had/have many, many blessings that others haven't/don't have. I try to focus on that and keep things in perspective.

My thoughts and best wishes are with you as you learn, in time, how to move on. Keep your chin up. Life is good....really.

~Theo~

08-31-2011, 11:14 AM	#12
theoddz Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Cranky Old Poop Preferred Pronoun?: Mr. Beast Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Texas Posts: 3,538 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,112 Thanked 9,926 Times in 2,510 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I think there are certain things that happen to us in life where we never do really "get over it", and maybe we shouldn't. I think resolution sometimes finally does come when we *come to terms* with it. One of my dear friends (and ex) lost her 5 year old daughter in a drowning incident back in the late 60's. She has never "gotten over" it, but she has come to terms with it, in time, and has been able to move forward in her life because of it. I don't know how a person comes to terms, or finds that peace, but somehow they do, in their own way, usually with time. I think it helps, though, when the grieving person is surrounded by the love, support and understanding of others. The month of May is my "grieving" month, for many quite personal reasons. I usually need a lot of time to myself then, and afterward, I'm okay. Every year that passes gets a little better for me, depending on what else is going on in my life. I keep in mind that I have much to be grateful for in my life. I've had/have many, many blessings that others haven't/don't have. I try to focus on that and keep things in perspective. My thoughts and best wishes are with you as you learn, in time, how to move on. Keep your chin up. Life is good....really. *~Theo~* __________________ *"All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost."* -- J. R. R. Tolkien