[Starbuck]

Hi Lizzy, I am so sorry for your loss. I too lost a baby that I wanted and I don't know that the grieving ends. Each May comes around and I'm reminded about how I foolishly told my parents that I was pregnant too early because I lost it at six weeks. I know that's not very far along but I'd been told I was peri-menopausal and infertile so I was very excited. But then I felt like I'd caused the miscarriage by running two miles the day before I started bleeding...talk about a self made guilt trip! That didn't make me feel any better.

And like some I've read, I tried to just carry on, liked nothing happened; that's just down right hard to do! That doesn't allow you to address your feelings, thoughts, and emotions, which is extremely important after losing a baby! I think that's why grief sticks around for so long is because we don't or cant deal with it in the beginning, because it's so painful.

So Lizzy, there is no right or wrong answer to grief, we are all different and respond differently to it. What helps me is thinking that my grandmother is up in Heaven and she is taking care of the baby that I lost.