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Originally Posted by Jess
I think and have always understood the definition of lesbian to be a word of action. Lesbians "actively" ( vigorously and lovingly) have sex with other women.
There is another word for women/ females who actively have sex with women AND men. That word is bisexual.
Most folks I know who engage in sex with women, men and trans-persons call themselves "queer" or "pansexual".
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I hope it's okay that I post here for a moment.
I really think it's more complicated than "actively have sex with other women". I mean, honestly, if that were all it took then I would be a Lesbian. I mean, maybe functionally I am - but functionality doesn't count for shit with me.
I have been sleeping with, and exclusively with, my lawfully wedded wedded person (who, incidentally, is a woman) for I think 6 years now. Historically, prior to getting together with my spouse, I slept with both men and women. There is absolutely nothing to indicate that I will ever sleep with a man again (presuming that my current relationship lasts the rest of my life). However, I am still not a Lesbian. I have slept with far more women than I have men, but I'm still not a Lesbian.
It's got to be about more than just fucking. It's got to be about intent, and political alignment, and intentional political alignment. Do you feel me?
(Also - big ups to Heart. I liked where she asked (to paraphrase) "If I'm not sleeping with ANYBODY - what am I?")
Sorry for crashing in on your party, peoples. I do that on occasion.