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Silverseastar · 10-09-2011, 09:23 AM

*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)
I would definitely go out with someone I met online if the mental attraction was there, but I find irl is where I have met my dates, felt that energetic attraction and gone for it.

*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)
This just sounds like a BAD idea. Finding connection is such a subtle art. How would anyone else know what makes us hot? I do think a social gathering with no pressure is cool though.

*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?
Yes as long as they were not a friend (i.e. acquaintance only) and there were no bad "political" repercussions. It hasn't happened so far and I'm in a small Butch/femme community. Mind you I was in a long term relationship too.

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?
I think in this day and age it happens all kinds of ways and I try not to evaluate it. Online does afford you the opportunity to see how the person thinks.

Oh and as for LDR's, after having one recently end because my partner could not take the distance piece (it was a first ldr for me) I'm really gun shy about the person being more than a few hours drive away. It was heartbreaking to have the distance be the deal breaker. Then again, I was okay with it because I'm more about the person and the type of connection when we could be together than things that kept us apart. But everyone is different.

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Silverseastar Member How Do You Identify?: femme, submissive, girl Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Singular Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Vancouver BC Posts: 133 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 348 Thanked 492 Times in 107 Posts Rep Power: 3095523	Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both) I would definitely go out with someone I met online if the mental attraction was there, but I find irl is where I have met my dates, felt that energetic attraction and gone for it. Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers) This just sounds like a BAD idea. Finding connection is such a subtle art. How would anyone else know what makes us hot? I do think a social gathering with no pressure is cool though. Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know? Yes as long as they were not a friend (i.e. acquaintance only) and there were no bad "political" repercussions. It hasn't happened so far and I'm in a small Butch/femme community. Mind you I was in a long term relationship too. Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life? I think in this day and age it happens all kinds of ways and I try not to evaluate it. Online does afford you the opportunity to see how the person thinks. Oh and as for LDR's, after having one recently end because my partner could not take the distance piece (it was a first ldr for me) I'm really gun shy about the person being more than a few hours drive away. It was heartbreaking to have the distance be the deal breaker. Then again, I was okay with it because I'm more about the person and the type of connection when we could be together than things that kept us apart. But everyone is different.