[Logicaly]

So I was recently in a situation at work, that I felt was some what relevant to the current topic at hand about revealing yourself to another person. Now I am in no way pursuing anything with this woman at my work, just to put that out there, so it makes it slightly different.

I had noticed a few times that this woman had made a reference to the men's room and my having the right parts to go in there (she wanted me to go in there for one reason or another), and it finally occurred to me, was she just referring to me in the way she felt I wanted, or did she really not know? So yesterday I worked up the courage to ask her, and well, I can be pretty direct at times, so I simply asked..."You do know that I am not a biological male right?" She looked very shocked to say the least, her and I had been working right next to each other for at least 3 months, and she had no idea that I was not born with male parts. She apologized of course, I let her know that was not necessary, and explained my situation to her. Sure, it was awkward, but for me personally, I feel it needed to be done. I didn't want her to get the wrong idea, especially since I do not use the men's room at work for a multitude of reasons and I did not want her to be uncomfortable if we ran into each other in the restroom.

So, while it does make me uncomfortable to have to out myself to people, I think there is also times where it might be necessary to do so. I don't think its deceiving to not tell someone right up front, or dishonest. I think depending upon the situation, especially if there is going to be any sort of intimacy involved though, that it is only right I tell the person before it gets to the point of us being intimate. That is just how I feel though, and what I feel is right for me. It of course could be very different for someone else and they may not feel it necessary at all to tell someone, and that is their choice as well.