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SelfMadeMan · 10-19-2011, 08:22 AM

I don't feel anyone needs to out themselves to everyone they meet - or even to most people they meet. And I certainly don't think it needs to be done up front unless you just want to. It has been my experience that as soon as a friendship or potential relationship starts to be a very close one, it's something you might want to consider. I have found that even in cases where you want to remain 'stealth' - the potential for outing is always there. It's happened to me more than once. So, if a friendship of mine is a very close one, I feel it is best that I tell that person at some point, as I've developed deep friendships in the past, and chose not to tell, only to have them find out and the friendship be ruined (to the point of hate motivated threats at in one case). Regarding romantic relationships, I think as soon as it is clear there will be intimate contact of any kind, you should tell. I only speak from my own experiences and opinions - but I think to become intimate with another person and not tell is unfair to them.

10-19-2011, 08:22 AM	#671
SelfMadeMan Member How Do You Identify?: Transsexual Man Preferred Pronoun?: Male Relationship Status: Married to The Woman of My Dreams <3 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 802 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 796 Thanked 2,668 Times in 527 Posts Rep Power: 18972345	I don't feel anyone needs to out themselves to everyone they meet - or even to most people they meet. And I certainly don't think it needs to be done up front unless you just want to. It has been my experience that as soon as a friendship or potential relationship starts to be a very close one, it's something you might want to consider. I have found that even in cases where you want to remain 'stealth' - the potential for outing is always there. It's happened to me more than once. So, if a friendship of mine is a very close one, I feel it is best that I tell that person at some point, as I've developed deep friendships in the past, and chose not to tell, only to have them find out and the friendship be ruined (to the point of hate motivated threats at in one case). Regarding romantic relationships, I think as soon as it is clear there will be intimate contact of any kind, you should tell. I only speak from my own experiences and opinions - but I think to become intimate with another person and not tell is unfair to them.