[EmpressM]

I've been contemplating my response for a while, and I am certainly not intending to intrude or debate anyone's feelings or point of view. Not being a transperson myself, I'm sure there's much to which I cannot relate.

I have used this very statement and variations thereof. However, how much of the offensiveness is a result of context or the person using it?

I have used it as what I believed to be reassurance when discussing with a transperson insensitive comments or actions by others where it made the transperson question their ability to "pass" or to be seen as they are now. I've never used the statement unsolicited. Is there another way to say something similar when asked your opinion that would resonate in a more positive, less cringe-worthy way?

Also, does the perception of the statement change when used in a positive context, such as reassurance in a conversation between two transpeople or a transperson and their partner?