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CockyDude · 10-26-2011, 07:03 AM

I did LDR with my 2nd wife for 12 months. We met physically after 4 weeks of talking and every 3-4 weeks after that while her children finished school. Yes, you get carried away by the physical; sex is almost constant because of the time between visits. But we tried to always make sure it was at least a 3 day visit. I also tried to make sure there was something going on we would attend; wedding, funeral (well, you're gonna have to be there for each other), pool tournament, bike run, friends' parties. Whatever was happening in my life so we could interact under as real and normal circumstances as possible. Likewise I flew down there (we commuted between Chicago and Dallas) for the same situations. By time she was ready to move, I had gone down to get the house ready for sale, she had been here to decide on certain house crap. The day of the move, as I pulled the moving truck loaded with her car on a trailer it just felt like we were simply moving to a new place. Unfortunately we only lasted 8 years, but the transition from LDR to living together was actually flawless. It took a lot of work, commitment and foresight but isn't that true of your entire relationship?

10-26-2011, 07:03 AM	#3
CockyDude Timed Out How Do You Identify?: FTM-man Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him Relationship Status: What is today? Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Midwest Posts: 239 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 151 Thanked 420 Times in 141 Posts Rep Power: 0	It is a challenge, but not insurmountable I did LDR with my 2nd wife for 12 months. We met physically after 4 weeks of talking and every 3-4 weeks after that while her children finished school. Yes, you get carried away by the physical; sex is almost constant because of the time between visits. But we tried to always make sure it was at least a 3 day visit. I also tried to make sure there was something going on we would attend; wedding, funeral (well, you're gonna have to be there for each other), pool tournament, bike run, friends' parties. Whatever was happening in my life so we could interact under as real and normal circumstances as possible. Likewise I flew down there (we commuted between Chicago and Dallas) for the same situations. By time she was ready to move, I had gone down to get the house ready for sale, she had been here to decide on certain house crap. The day of the move, as I pulled the moving truck loaded with her car on a trailer it just felt like we were simply moving to a new place. Unfortunately we only lasted 8 years, but the transition from LDR to living together was actually flawless. It took a lot of work, commitment and foresight but isn't that true of your entire relationship?