I have successfully gone from LDR to living together. We just hit our three year anniversary. I was lucky because even though we were states apart, the distance wasn't that far, California to Arizona and I could do it in about 5 1/2 hours so we got to see each other quite a lot, so that was really helpful.
Money and a job are two really big issues to talk about and get squared away before you make the move. Start looking for work before you get there if you can. The strain of being out of work, having no money, and relocating is really, really hard on a relationship. That's a lot of changes at once. Thankfully I did find work in Arizona even though it wasn't the best job I had some money coming in. I had a small nest egg that disappeared pretty quick (probably because we had a dream vacation in San Francisco). Not the smartest financial move but it was awesome!!
Inevitably Arizona was not for Christine or I but I wouldn't change anything about the way things have played out. We are back in California again and we both are glad for that. We have a really good foundation I think in part because we do communicate pretty well, even when we're displeased with something the other person has done. Sometimes it's extremely hard work to talk about things, but you have to. You have to be honest and not hold grudges. We fit together like puzzle pieces.
Good luck Nat, I always enjoy reading yours posts!
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