[1QuirkyKiwi]

I went from an International LDR to living together (Italy to the US) – the biggest problem was the possessiveness of my partner. A few months after moving in with her, I lost my friends and my family weren’t welcome to visit because she felt I’d leave her for some one else (my naturally friendly and bubbly personality makes it easy for me to meet people, but, it can be taken as me flirting – which I don’t do, as I haven’t a clue how! LOL!). The fact that I travelled with my job didn’t help! I was isolated – I couldn’t even join a hand embroidery group or volunteer for a charity……which I do when my SB means I cannot work for a while, then I hand embroider blankets for the local Neo-natal unit or hospices, etc. I like to be part of the community and help where I can - I help with the local wildlife conservation. I take in neglected and unwanted cats that need a loving home, be it for their last few hours, days, weeks, months or years, or until they find a more suitable forever home.

I’ve had another LDR, but, I felt that the distance across the pond was too great and too expensive to really build anything serious, that would lead to a permanent life together.

The logistics for me to move outside of Europe are a nightmare, as I have to find a Neurologist and Spinal Orthopaedic Surgeon for my SB, then, there are my cats, my furniture, etc. It would be different if I met another Kiwi or an Aussie, as I’d be home or at least just across the Tasman, lol!

I have family here in the UK that I’m close too and there are numerous cheap-ish flights across Europe to and from the UK for my family to visit me and vice versa, so, I’m being realistic and practical in my limitations for LDRs going into a living together permanently situation.