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girl_dee · 10-26-2011, 05:41 PM

Also be aware of laws regarding moving someone in.

I once had an apartment, I let someone I was talking to long distance stay with me for what was to be a couple of months until she could get her own apartment and I was more than happy to help her get a job and a place. She wanted a better life and more opportunities for work. The only problem was she sat on her butt and had no intention of moving once she set up house in my living room. She became paranoid and was convinced everyone was out to *get * her including me. Every spam email or pop up she got confirmed for her that we were all out to *get her* She then informed me, by yelling thru my bedroom door which I stayed locked behind for days at a time, that since I invited her, that she did not have to leave. I had someone who helped me get my nerve up to confront her and I woke her up one day and told her to get OUT. She said no, I called the cops, they then informed me that she did not have to go, and that I would have to process her eviction through the court system! That if I allowed her to stay for more than 24 hours it was also her place of residence

I was at my wits end.

She saw me downstairs talking to the police and then saw the cops leave. I came upstairs and told her the cops were coming back in 20 minutes to evict her,(I don't believe in lying but I felt I had no choice) and that if she did not go peacefully they would arrest her. She believed me, thank GOD, she threw stuff at me while she packed her few things, including my gate key which landed on my face. She went out to her car to throw some of her clothes in, so I hurried and tossed the rest of her stuff outside of my door and slammed it shut just as she was coming up the last step, she banged and banged but I wouldn't open it. She finally left but not until she sat screaming to my entire apartment complex obscenities about me and my apartment number.

I was so scared that she was going to *get me* that I stopped going places except to work and then became a hermit and to this day I have issues with going places. I go, but I still feel I am on alert.

So yah, be careful before you invite someone into your home, you may not be able to get them out easily.

10-26-2011, 05:41 PM	#14
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,862 Times in 13,915 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	24 hours and they have rights .. in Louisiana anyway... Also be aware of laws regarding moving someone in. I once had an apartment, I let someone I was talking to long distance stay with me for what was to be a couple of months until she could get her own apartment and I was more than happy to help her get a job and a place. She wanted a better life and more opportunities for work. The only problem was she sat on her butt and had no intention of moving once she set up house in my living room. She became paranoid and was convinced everyone was out to get her including me. Every spam email or pop up she got confirmed for her that we were all out to get her She then informed me, by yelling thru my bedroom door which I stayed locked behind for days at a time, that since I invited her, that she did not have to leave. I had someone who helped me get my nerve up to confront her and I woke her up one day and told her to get OUT. She said no, I called the cops, they then informed me that she did not have to go, and that I would have to process her eviction through the court system! That if I allowed her to stay for more than 24 hours it was also her place of residence I was at my wits end. She saw me downstairs talking to the police and then saw the cops leave. I came upstairs and told her the cops were coming back in 20 minutes to evict her,(I don't believe in lying but I felt I had no choice) and that if she did not go peacefully they would arrest her. She believed me, thank GOD, she threw stuff at me while she packed her few things, including my gate key which landed on my face. She went out to her car to throw some of her clothes in, so I hurried and tossed the rest of her stuff outside of my door and slammed it shut just as she was coming up the last step, she banged and banged but I wouldn't open it. She finally left but not until she sat screaming to my entire apartment complex obscenities about me and my apartment number. I was so scared that she was going to get me that I stopped going places except to work and then became a hermit and to this day I have issues with going places. I go, but I still feel I am on alert. So yah, be careful before you invite someone into your home, you may not be able to get them out easily.