[Lynn]

We had a LDR for a year before she moved to this area. She didn't move in, as I felt that would be moving too quickly. We continued our relationship for another year before we took that step. Now, four years hence, we have just gotten married.

What made it easier--she got a job and secured an apartment before she moved, and we didn't make a commitment to living together until we had a decent idea that we might have a future together. With my daughters involved, I was extremely cautious about protecting them from a revolving door of bad relationships.

I think we've been able to reach this point, feeling so good, because we didn't just go with the flow, and do what was expected at each point. We really looked at our options and choices and made sure it felt right at each step.