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♥What are your middle names? BB's middle name is Terry, and mine is Kate.

♥ How long have you been together? About seven years.

♥ How long did you know each other before you started dating? Like five seconds.

♥ Who asked who out? BB asked me out for breakfast. I said that sounded great but really I was thinking, "Oy vey. Why so early?"

♥ Who's siblings do you see the most? My brother and his husband live right in the city, and we share friends, so - mine.

♥ Do you have any children together? BB has two sons from a previous marriage. I consider the younger one "ours" in a lot of ways. I sign my cards to him "Love from your Step-Mommy Queerest."

♥ What about pets? BB brought a big, sedentary grey cat into the relationship named Phoebe or "P the C" (stands for "Phoebe the Cat"). I have a fluffy, skittish orange Norwegian Forest Cat named Frou Frou. Lately we have been considering rescuing a horse and keeping it in our small one-bedroom home, as rescuing animals seems to be all the rage amongst our friends these days.

♥ Did you go to the same school? Yes, we both graduated with honors from the BFP Academy and look forward to moving to the BFP compound when it becomes available.

♥ Who is the most sensitive? Outwardly, me. However, at the beginning of the relationship BB told me that in hys last marriage-type relationship, with the woman w/whom hy had kids, she got to "have all the emotions in the relationship." And hy explained that hy wanted things to be different with us. So I really try to make an effort to not always make everything about me and to try to draw out what hy is feeling.

♥ Where do you eat out most as a couple? I'm vegetarian, and BB enjoys all kinds of foods, including vegetarian. We both love Chinese. We love ordering in. We have a number of favorite spots in the city.

♥ Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple? We went on a Rosie cruise with our youngest child to the Caribbean.

♥ Who has the worst temper? We both can be hot tempered but we don't hold grudges and let things blow over quickly. Once we got in a big fight before bed over something neither of us remembers anymore, and after we'd made up, we each confessed that we'd thought of not sleeping in the bed with the other that night. BB said, "I was thinking of sleeping on the couch," and I said, "I was thinking of spending the night in a hotel." We then laughed over how I'd immediately thought of something luxurious. We do more laughing than fighting in our relationship.

♥ Who does the cooking? I cook dinner for BB and me and do most of the cooking for us on weekends, while BB cooks for guests. BB also makes omelets for us on weekend mornings, while I sing a song called "The Omelet Man" while hy cooks.

♥ Who is more social? We both prefer to be alone together with the cats in the apartment. We do socialize but not without complaining.

♥ Who has the better sense of humor? We both crack each other up all the time. We have great fun together.

♥ Who is the neat freak? BB is minimal and I am clutter-prone. However, I am neat in the sense of organized chaos and dusting.

♥ Who is the most stubborn? Me.

♥ Who hogs the bed? BB likes to take the blanket and wrap hymself up in it as the night progresses like a burrito. However, at the beginning of the night, I'm more high maintenance because I tell BB that hy gets a third of the bed, I get a third, and Phoebe the Cat gets a third.

♥ Who wakes up earlier? Usually BB, as hy's more of a morning person.

♥ Where was your first date? Dawat, an Indian restaurant.

♥ Who has the bigger family? Probably BB/ Italian Catholic.

♥ Do you get flowers often? Sometimes I get them from BB after a fight with a loving message attached. I love that! And once BB sent a HUGE bouquet of Hello Kitty HAPPY BIRTHDAY balloons to my work place. Only it wasn't my birthday. BB had just requested HK balloons and I guess the ones they had were HB. All day everyone asked, "Is it your birthday?!" It was awkward and wonderful!

♥ How long did it take to get serious? BB told me hy was in love about two weeks into it. That scared me. I tortured BB by dating others. BB got so upset that hy cut me off entirely. Then I called one night and said, "I'm ready to commit for life." I told hym that I'd gone out and gotten a tattoo with hys name (in my photo gallery btw), and hy was horrified. It turns out hy hates tattoos, and maybe even found the gesture a little stalker-ish.

♥ Who eats more? Me, by a landslide. BB eats like a bird. I serve BB a portion and hy eats it. I go back for seconds and thirds and snacks!

♥ Who sings better? BB. Great voice and laugh.

♥ Who does the laundry? BB. Hy folds beautifully.

♥ Who’s better with the computer? BB. Hy's a tech genius. I'm so thankful for that.

♥ Who drives when you are together? BB. Hy's a great driver, and I love being a passenger!

♥ Who picks where you go to dinner? Me. I'm the control freak, and BB is the easy going one.

♥ Who is the first one to admit when they’re wrong? We're both pretty generous to one another in that way.

♥ Who wears the pants in the relationship? In bed, BB. Out of the bed, I make a lot of the small decisions but BB makes some of the big decisions and makes them very well, might I add.

♥ Who has more tattoos? Me. Just the one tattoo of hys name.

♥ Who eats more sweets? Me.

♥ Who cries more? We both cry.