[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by Liam

I learned not to talk about sex with cis-gendered men. I can not recall one serious conversation about sex with any of my cis-gendered men friends or acquaintances. It is something that is joked about, a topic that generates endless teasing, but in my experience, not something to be discussed seriously.

Constipation, diarrhea, painful urination, blood in the urine, "funny red spots on my penis," these are the subjects of a more intimate nature, which I have discussed with my cis-gendered men friends.

Originally Posted by ButchEire

I get the impression that the OP's husband is already engaged in conversations with bio-men that he doesn't necessarily feel comfortable engaging in. Men will be men and from my personal perspective of knowing mostly bio-men, they don't think twice about talking about their parts. It's not necessarily sexual, it's just what men will do sometimes and they probably just expect the OP's husband to join in. Not sure how you would go about "learning" how to engage in that kind of conversation though. I've always been around men, so it's never been a problem to talk like them and not think anything of it. Maybe being a good listener would help OP's husband to understand the "rules of engagement?"

This makes more sense to me than a question about wanting to discuss sex with cismen.