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asperger syndrome may physically present in quirky and clumsy, but that could be anyone off the spectrum as well.

when people do not see what it looks like on a daily basis, they can be so quick to make judgments ! a diabetic has blood glucose spikes with too much honey, and that seems easier for many people to relate to - there's a glucose meter, injections, or general acceptance of 'diabetic' complications.

i walk the roads daily between NT world and my ATypical [AT] wiring, and feel like another species with loads of expectations to 'fit' in, comprehend, agree with, and accept blindly of situations- in some cases these do make so little sense to me.

questioning people who are not on the spectrum has been a mixed bag for me ! i think my questions may come across unexpectedly because i present physically 'normal' [although i dislike that word immensely!]- and there's a possibility for : sense of confusion, defensiveness, or thinking i'm 'weird', even if i frame questions gently. in the work i do with animal welfare, my committee are real tight- there are no communication issues. however, in dealing with other board members - whenever i am asked, and i often am, to provide my thoughts- that's a slippery slope! depends on the person- backfiring of my need for further clarification has sure happened on line also. others forget [and i do hear that!!] i'm on the spectrum- therefore, am i set up for failure? there's no need to be 'failure', my processing simply cannot the same as NeuroTypical [NT].