[Kobi]

Originally Posted by guihong

I think I'm harder to live with as I get older. I get "peopled out" easily at work, and love to come home to a shower and a bowl of Raisin Bran for dinner. I like keeping my home as I like it, and not picking up all the time after someone else. If I want to decorate it a certain way, it can be mine, all mine .

Ciaran's posts ring a bell for me. I'm so much better when I have about 2x "me time" for 1x "couple time", if that makes sense. It's not a reflection on my partner, but what I need to be happiest.

I am soooo glad to hear you and Ciaran address this. I feel similar. I have a life filled with things that make me who I am and make me happy. Being part of a couple isnt a substitute for this, it is an adjunct.

Finding the right mix of "me" time and "we" time can be tricky to say the least.